Agree on boundaries first

Know what's sexy vs. what's off-limits.

Keep it playful, not personal

Avoid emotional compliments; focus on physical.

Use fantasy-driven language

Frame it as a shared kink, not real-life longing.

Center your partner

Talk about her pleasure, not comparisons.

Avoid naming feelings

Steer clear of words like "love" or "connection" for others.

Use we-language

Reinforce the dynamic as “ours,” even if she’s with someone else.

Check in often

Aftercare includes verbal check-ins on emotional safety.

Stay in roleplay mode

Dirty talk should feel like a scene, not a relationship shift.

Mutual arousal is key

Ensure it turns both partners on equally.

Have a safe word for dirty talk

Just like kink, you can stop if lines blur.